I am just like my mother.

It is a story I like to tell myself. It makes me feel strong and loving, just like her, it also helps me feel connected to her. It also tells me, that sometimes I don’t feel strong or loving, and I strive to be that. When I delve into that story of lack, I find some fear around not being strong enough, or loving enough, not good enough. So I work on my mindset, my thoughts and feelings, to release old patterns and invite in a new story.

Just like my daughter.

She likes to do things her way, break convention, just like me, it helps me find patience with her. This story talks to me about being different, how I feel that I don’t fit in to societal norms. It brings up feelings of unease around being myself, of allowing myself to be different. I change my thoughts to “it’s ok to speak my truth.” I tell myself a new story, how else will society become better unless we change our ways, and break convention.

I am like my father.

He was a gentleman and a thinker, I tell myself this story to feel connected to him and that I like to see myself as intelligent. This brings up emotions and insecurities about my mind, my intelligence, am I being a fraud? I change my thoughts to loving ones about my mindful awareness and how that allows me to be a thinker, and gentle, by taking the time to think things through and not reacting badly to situations.

Stories we tell ourselves, (our beliefs) have an emotional attachment. The emotion always serves us in some way, what is the emotion and the story it is attached to trying to tell you?

Emotion is not your enemy, it is our amazing human body’s way of communicating with you.

Emotions are feelings or sensations in your body, whether from an experience presently, from the past, or in the future. We can become attached to the stories of those experiences. And we can attach meaning to each experience.

A meaning of “Judgement or Expectation.”

We then attach to the feeling we get from telling ourselves the story, or hold onto fear, anger, or sadness around an experience. We can attach a positive emotion, too, joy, surprise, love or peace.

Stress and anxiety are an emotional signal from the body. Maybe you are doing too much, feeling too much or thinking too much.

The conscious story we tell ourselves here is “They don’t love me”, “I can’t do it”, “I can’t stop”, “I am confused”, “I am overly emotional”, “I don’t play well with others”, “I am out of control”, “I am a mess”, “my hormones are out of whack”, “I am tired”, “I am in pain”, “they don’t understand me”.

The unconscious story we tell ourselves here can differ for everyone, “I am not good enough to get it done” “I am not deserving enough to rest or play,” “I am not smart enough to figure this out” “I am not lovable enough for people to support me”, “I don’t matter”.

These are unconscious patterns of thought that keep driving the stress, anxiety, pain and negative thought loops. Are you ready to work together to resolve and release the old stories and attachments?

Emotional empowerment is about being aware and awake of the stories we tell ourselves. So we can choose consciously, the story we tell ourselves in every experience.

What story have you been telling yourself today?

Peace and Love, Toni xx